As we grow older, there comes a lot of pressure to get married. It may not be pronounced like your parents asking you subtly or directly but seeing your mates get married and have kids can also do that. No matter what the case is, you should make sure that whoever you want to get married to at the end of the day is committed to and works hard in your relationship. Make sure you both want the same things out of life, you understand and know each other well and you love each other. Here are 5 of the worst reasons we can think of to enter into marriage.
1. You’re getting older and you don’t want to be alone
That’s how people trap themselves in bad situations. It’s understandable if you’re a woman worried about the “biological clock” especially if you really want kids but this reason shouldn’t be the only reason why you want to marry someone. Some of the loneliest people in the world are those living in a marriage they entered with the goal of healing their loneliness. It doesn’t work.
2. To Solve Your Relationship Problems
Marriage will not do anything of the sort. You’re deceiving yourself. Marriage will amplify all the faults and you’ll end up being stuck in a situation that you really don’t want to be in. If you don’t have respect for one another, you won’t gain it by getting married. If you both don’t communicate properly before marriage, it will not magically change.
3. Everyone is doing it
All your friends and mates are getting married and so the pressure is mounting. You don’t have to get married to someone just because others are doing it. Social media can make you feel like everyone but you is getting married but this is inaccurate. People don’t post photos announcing that they’re not engaged. And even if “everyone” is engaged, what does that have to do with you and your relationship?
4. Doing it to prove something
Maybe your parents got divorced and you’re determined to show the world that you’re better than them. Or all your friends are married now and you want to show them you’re also desirable. You shouldn’t be getting married for any other reason other than yourself because at the end of the day, when there are problems, it will be between you and your partner and not those other people.
5. They chose you
This reason comes up when you feel like you are not worthy enough for the person or when you start thinking about the wealth, status and physical attributes of the person and comparing yourself with them. It is not healthy. Building your marriage on someone else’s choice is building your marriage on irresponsibility. Not smart.
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