When in a relationship, it’s important to remember that, in as much as you both want to be emotionally supported, you’re not just there to be each other’s emotional backbone. There may be a lot of things going on in your life and it is during times like this that you need your partner more than ever but if you lean too heavily on them, it will become a problem in your relationship.
Do you ever feel exhausted and overwhelmed when you spend time with your partner? If yes, that is definitely a sign of an unhealthy and non-nourishing relationship. It may be that your partner is emotionally draining you but how can you be too sure? Check out these signs which more or less cement that fact.
1. Conversations seem to revolve around them
No matter what happens. Even if you’re the one with a problem that needs solving, they try to make it a “them problem”. Everything ends up being about them? Sometimes it’s inevitable that their situation will dominate the conversation but they should be considerate. Talking to your partner should help give you peace of mind so if it’s doing the opposite, then what’s the point?
2. You worry about them all the time
If you’re always thinking about how unpredictable your relationship and partner are or you’re always concerned about where they are or what they’re doing, it’s a problem. Generally, partners who care about each other will worry but when it goes overboard, it becomes a problem. Thinking about another person’s whereabouts and their overall well-being is exhausting and unhealthy.
3. You start to love being alone
It’s important to take time out for yourself but when you start to actively ignore your partner because when you’re with them, you just don’t feel right or after being with them, you tend to feel more tired and frustrated with yourself, you may be in an emotionally draining relationship.
4. You avoid meeting them
With this point, you may not want to be alone but you would rather be anywhere with someone else instead of being with your partner. You always try coming up with excuses as to why you can’t talk to them on phone or you don’t want to meet them. You don’t want to be bombarded with nagging or complaints or even criticisms. Do some self-analysis and you may come to the conclusion that you’re emotionally drained.
5. You start to lose your patience with them
Now you’re annoyed because of the smallest issues; things you shouldn’t get angry over get you extremely mad. It may be because you feel unappreciated and that the relationship is one-sided. You cannot fully express your feelings because your partner is always going through something traumatic and so you feel like your issue is nothing. Your patience running thin when nothing obvious seems to be wrong is an indicator that you need to look deeper into the “not-so-obvious” and find out what exactly is wrong.
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