You have no idea how refreshing it is to go online and realize that you’re not the only one who gets a call, watches the phone ring and then texts the person back after it’s finished ringing. While that seems a little silly when you say it out loud, it’s just proof of how much introverts hate phone calls. And it’s not irrational. In fact, here are five legitimate reasons why introverts hate phone calls.
Phone Calls Interrupts Us
Yes, I know no one likes to be interrupted—including extroverts. However, an extrovert can just pick up the phone, have a conversation and then go back to what they were doing. For an introvert it a phone call doesn’t just interrupt what we’re doing, it actually interrupts us. Interacting with people usually requires some preparation on our part. You have to get in the right state of mind to speak to people. But when someone just calls randomly, it’s just a little disorienting.
Phone Calls Hold You Hostage
In general, introverts are not great when it comes to ending conversations. And phone calls are even worse. You talk to someone for 30 minutes, then you want to tell them that have to go. But you just can’t, and then you’ve spoken for an hour. And then you’ve spoken for two hours. And all you feel is, “why are you still talking to me. Don’t you have anything better to do,” because even at your big age, you can’t tell the person that you’re talking to that all you want to do is hang up.
There Are No Visual Cues
Okay, this is one of the more serious reasons why introverts hate phone calls. When I’m having a conversation with someone, I look for visual cues to see how they’re responding to what I’m saying. With phone calls there is none of that. You can’t see the expression their face when you say something. And that’s one of the things introverts rely on to read between the lines when they’re having a conversation with someone. When we have no visual feedback, we can be a bit negative about how we’re being received.
Introverts Worry About Miscommunication
One of the worst things that happens when you’re talking to someone over the phone is not hearing them. There’s only so many times you can ask someone to repeat themselves before you pretend that you heard what they said. With phone calls—using Vodafone or even MTN—there’s things that don’t always work right. And at the end of the day, you have to worry about being misunderstood or misunderstanding what the other person said.
We Worry That We Are Irritating People
One of the reasons that introverts don’t initiate interaction, in general, is that we feel like we are irritating people. I can’t count the number of times I’ve called someone and began the conversation with “sorry but …” Anyway, we get irritated by phone calls, so it makes sense that we would think that other people do too.
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