Deciding whether or not you should break up is definitely a battle between your heart and your head. How are you even sure that you’re not overreacting and that the issues you’re having are normal relationship issues? Here are 4 questions which should help you figure out if it’s time for the relationship to end.
1. Am I afraid to say what I’m feeling for fear of causing problems?
You should be free in your relationship. You don’t have to be policing everything you say. You don’t have to keep quiet most of the time because you’re scared that what you say will be misconstrued. You shouldn’t be afraid that you’ll be emotionally, physically and mentally abused by your partner when you say something which truly meant no harm. If you’re afraid to speak your mind, you should break up with them.
2. Does the relationship bring out the best in you?
Are you the best version of yourself now that you’re in a relationship or are you a smaller version of yourself? Does your partner support your dreams and aspirations? Does your partner push you to be better? If your partner keeps pulling you down and prevents you from developing yourself, you need to reconsider the relationship.
3. Do you argue more frequently than you get along?
In every relationship, there will be fights because you’re different people but they shouldn’t be the order of the day. If you realise that you argue more than you have fun and enjoy each other’s company, it may be time to call it quits.
4. Am I constantly trying to ‘fix’ my partner, or is my partner trying to ‘fix’ me?
This means you’re not okay with each other. If there’s a fixing problem, both of you will not be your true selves. You’ll just be acting. You won’t be happy with yourself as you’ll feel like you’re not enough for your partner. If this is an issue, you may have to break up. Talk to your partner and let them know how you feel about it. If they don’t see the problem, you may have to break up with them.
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