After coming out of a toxic relationship, you may feel like your sense of self has been stripped away. You may even try as much as possible to avoid the opposite sex but you’ll find that it’s almost impossible.
Once you’re able to move past the toxicity, you start to wonder if you’ll be able to do relationships again. The idea of dating may be scary now but we’ve gathered some tips to help you out.
1. Find yourself
There’s no doubt that you aren’t the same person you used to be before you entered that toxic relationship. You’ve grown. You’ve learnt numerous lessons but you still need to spend time with yourself to know who you are more. This helps you heal your wounds and prepares you for whoever you decide to go out with next. You don’t want to enter into another relationship broken.
2. Believe in love again
There’s a good chance that because of your experience, you wouldn’t be interested in love anymore and no one can fault you for it but you need to remember that you aren’t your past situation. There truly is love out there for you. Love which isn’t toxic. All you need to do is to work on yourself and be ready for it. Believe that you will find someone and the positive energy will draw that person too you!
3. Choose differently
People tend to fall into their old habits over and over again. It isn’t as if they haven’t learnt from their mistakes but they are drawn to certain types of people and they end up in the same cycle of toxicity. You need to make the conscious effort to choose differently.
By now you may have recognized the kind of person you want to date, the kind of behaviors you want both of you to exhibit, and the kind of feelings you want the next person to make you feel.
4. Take your time
When trying to find yourself, be patient. When struggling to believe the concept of love, be patient. When you choose differently and you’re struggling to make your relationship work, take your time. Get to know their likes and dislikes, their past relationships, their relationships with their parents, and their hopes and dreams for the future. Don’t make any rash decisions. Be patient with yourself.
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