If you’re reading this, I’m going to take a guess and say that you’re single. I hate generalizations myself, so I’m just going to put a little disclaimer here. Just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean that you’re the same as every other introvert. And while you are single for some of these reasons, you’re not single for all of these reasons. Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about why you’re so chronically unloved.
You’re Too Comfortable Being Alone
People are great. There’s no doubt about that. And spending time with people is awesome. Yes. Yes, that’s all true but people are also exhausting. And there’s some relief that comes with not having to talk to someone everyday.
Although being alone can be good for everyone in general, introverts tend to more comfortable with extended periods by themselves. And you know that you want a relationship, but it can be very hard to seek one out when you enjoy being by yourself so much.
You Want A Deep Meaningful Connection
As an introvert, when you’re looking for a relationship, you’re looking for something that is just surface-level. You’re looking for a deep meaningful connection. You want to feel like you were meant to know a person. However, you’re also impatient to get to that point. You want that connection to be instant.
But real life doesn’t work like that. To build that sort of connection with someone, it takes a lot of time and lots of mundane conversations, lots of small talk and all those petty things that you’re not enthusiastic about.
You Don’t Show Enough Of Yourself
Introverts tend to be more guarded about who they show themselves. While extroverts tend to be more open in person, introverts are only comfortable sharing everything with people that they trust.
This makes usually makes introverts harder to figure out. And that can be a turn-off for some people. Even if it is uncomfortable at times, opening up to people will allow you to form genuine connections because you’re meeting them halfway.
You Care Too Much What Other People Think
Every person feels the effect of other people’s judgement. We’re social creatures. We care what other people think. For introverts though, that fear of being judged by others can affect their actions and they way that they relate with other people.
In addition to that, an introvert will more likely take a rejection more personally. And they won’t see it as an issue of being incompatible. But that’s really not the case. Everybody isn’t for everyone. It’s that simple.