Love, romance, flirting … they all happen online these days. And now more than ever—with us being indoors and social distancing—we form connections through the messaging apps on our phones. And hey, sometimes those connections warrant a need for intimacy. Enter sexting. It is exactly what it sounds like; getting a little naughty over text. It can be hard with a new person though. Here are some things that you should/shouldn’t do…
1. Think Things Through Before You Say Them
If this is a new person that you want to try this with, make sure to police yourself a bit. Even if they are into it, saying the wrong thing can be a turn off. It’s important to try and remain respectful even you’re excited.
2. Consent Still Matters
Sending a picture of your privates randomly isn’t great for setting a mood. Even though it’s over text, consent is still important. It can be cringy to put into words the fact that you want to get sexual. Instead, you can be suggestive and see how the other person reacts. Enthusiasm and curiosity can be good signs to go ahead. However, you should also be able to take a hint if the other person makes a joke or tries to change the subject.
3. Err … Don’t Be Too Direct
You don’t want to just jump into the gory details with the first text. Instead, you want to create a sense of anticipation. Take your time and hold back a bit. It’ll create excitement in the other person.