1. Whose standards are you trying to live up to?
In order to feel like a disappointment, you have to believe yourself to be in some way less than what you or others think you should be. But who is telling you what you should be? Who is setting a particular standard for you to reach? Chances are it is not your standards that you are trying to live up to. It is somebody else’s. Or society’s as a whole. You may have taken these upon yourself and integrated them into your mindset, but they did not begin life there.
This is important because if you try to live your life how other people want you to live it, you will deny yourself the chance to live it how YOU want to live it. And the chances of you feeling disappointed in yourself increase substantially when you force yourself down a particular path that doesn’t feel right to you. If you feel like you are disappointing your parents or family, you ought to stop and ask why their vision of your life is more important than your own.
The people who claim to love and care for us have every right to wish the best for us, but they do not have the right to decide for us what that best should be.
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