For almost anyone, the great mystery of life is how to successfully flirt. Add on a heaping dose of shyness, and it’s enough to make any timid guy doubtful about how to approach someone they find attractive. Thankfully, seasoned romancers are sharing their tips on how to flirt like a pro—and it turns out it’s all about authenticity and faking it until you make it.
Five main rules of flirting have overtaken the comments, reigning supreme as the ultimate tips shy guys can apply to their romance game. Click Next to read more and start taking notes because this is bound to come in handy.
Take it easy
Rule one: Breathe. If you are shy about flirting, chances are you are also anxious to approach someone you find attractive. But flirting really boils down to getting to know a person—and dropping hints to let that person know you are interested.
Forget the eyes across the room, the ignoring-but-not-ignoring game, and the friend telephone nonsense.
Whether it’s a drink at the bar or a ring of keys, getting out some nervous energy can help. Just make sure to not get distracted by a cellphone. Make sure you are paying attention.
Harness your confidence—or just fake it
Faking it until you make it applies to flirting too. At first, shy guys who lack flirting confidence might find it impossible to give the exact opposite impression. But, according to Redditors, faking confidence is the first step in gaining confidence.
There is an important distinction to look out for, though. Confidence should not be mistaken for arrogance, so make sure you aren’t crossing the line. Ego is never appealing, but self-assurance is.
Look them in the eye
If you are a shy guy, you might be tempted to avoid eye contact with someone you like. But making eye contact while talking to someone, or even when the person you like enters the room, will make them notice you—and give off that all-important air of confidence.
But eye contact isn’t only one-sided. Pay attention to see if the person you are flirting with is returning your gaze. It could be a sign your attention and flirtations are welcome, according to another commenter.
It may be the advice given for when you are committing a low-level crime, but acting natural is actually the key to flirting successfully, according to some self-proclaimed romance experts. According to one Redditor, the best flirting is not flirting at all.
Don’t try too hard. Don’t overthink. Don’t even attempt to flirt. Just talk, engage, and be interested in your own way. People naturally gravitate towards others who are confident in who they are. If you can do that, flirting will come naturally.
Be a (genuinely) nice guy
There are nice guys, and then there are Nice Guys. While nice guys are genuinely good people with sound intentions when it comes to flirting, Nice Guys are those who believe good behaviour means their owed a woman’s attention and adoration. Be a nice guy, not a Nice Guy.
Maintain eye contact and be naturally nice. Find simple compliments rather than things that may possibly sound creepy—and don’t try too hard.”
Keeping the creep factor low and prioritizing respect may sound like a given to any actually nice guy. But we live in a world where the obvious needs to be stated and kept in mind, especially when approaching women you might now know well.
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