Question #2: Do you both want an open relationship?
In an ideal world, if your partner wants an open relationship, you’d want one too. And you’d both want it equally. But that’s not how most relationships work. Usually, one person wants it more. In an ideal world, the partner who wants it less—or possibly not at all—would have complete veto power, just as with any other major life decision.
But in reality, if you’re the less enthusiastic partner, you might not feel free to say no.
Open relationships work best if you’re both good at advocating for what you need and you both know how to respect the other person’s needs, feelings, and boundaries.
Do you have the skills and confidence to do this in complex situations involving more than one partner? Some people do, and some don’t.