16 Ways To Tell If Your Work Colleague Secretly Hates You

Haters are going to hate, right?

In our personal lives, it’s easier to dismiss people who don’t like us. But at work, being widely disliked can pose a larger problem.

Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of “Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job,” said:

“Most coworkers won’t overtly show their disdain for you so as not to cause trouble or jeopardize their own careers. They may make life difficult for you, but they’ll probably try to stay under the radar. Still, there are subtle red flags that they’re not out for your best interests.

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You’ll want to know those signs, says Taylor, so you can spot them when they’re present and turn things around before it’s too late.

“Of course, it’s impossible to be liked by everyone in the office,” she said.

But you should always strive to be sensitive to the needs of your fellow coworkers, remain upbeat and friendly, communicate openly, and give colleagues the benefit of the doubt.

“Those who do this have a far brighter career future,” she said. “Plus, when [we] have strong, healthy workplace relationships, you will be more effective and accomplished in your job.”

Here are 22 subtle signs that your coworkers secretly hate you. But keep in mind that you may just be misreading their body language or tone – the workplace is certainly not immune to human misunderstanding and no one’s a mind reader.

Your gut tells you they don’t like you

If you feel like your coworkers don’t like you, then it could just be in your head, but it could also be true. If they treat you differently than everyone else, then you’re probably not their favorite person. Trust your gut and continue looking for other signs if you have a strong feeling about this.

They don’t smile when you’re around

We’re not talking about the occasional bad day or mood swing. If your coworkers make a conscious effort not to smile when you’re in the room, then something isn’t right.

They can’t maintain eye contact with you

It’s difficult to look someone straight in the eye when you don’t like or respect them, says Taylor. If you notice that your colleagues avoid eye contact while speaking with you, then those are probably the reasons.

“They’re afraid that you may be able to detect hostility, so the path of least resistance is for them to look away or avoid being around you wherever possible,” Taylor said.

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They avoid you

Writing for the Muse, Kat Boogard gave a striking example of the lengths someone might go to in order to escape the presence of a disliked coworker: “When it’s just the two of you waiting for an elevator, he decides to walk down the stairs – all 14 flights.”

If you notice that your coworkers take the stairs when they see you waiting for the elevator, or they wait until you return from the break room before they head in, then those are good signs that they’re avoiding you.

They don’t acknowledge your presence

If your colleagues don’t say “Good morning” when you arrive or “Have a great night” on their way out, they may be telling you they don’t like you, said Taylor.

They’re short with you

If you ask “How’s it going?” and they always respond with “OK” or “Fine” – or if their emails always get straight to the point and never begin with a friendly “Hello” or “Good afternoon” – then this may be a sign that they’re not a huge fan of yours.

“If they sound like a moody teenager, then that’s a pretty big red flag,” said Kerr.

They give off negative body language

Whether it’s a subtle eye roll or constantly assuming a closed-off position with arms folded across their chest, or they don’t look up from their computer screen when you enter their office, your coworkers’ body language will often reveal their true feelings toward you, Kerr said.

They communicate with you primarily via email, even though you sit close by

If your coworkers don’t like you, they’ll probably try to limit their in-person communication with you. If you notice a shift toward more digital correspondence, that’s a sign.

They never ask about your personal life

If you notice that your colleagues speak with each other about their kids or hobbies, but never bring up these topics with you, they’re probably just not interested in hearing about your life, says Kerr.

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They never invite you to social events

If you never make the cut for lunch, happy hour, or project meetings over coffee, your coworkers may be trying to send you a message.

They don’t ever include you in their office bantering or humor

“Joking around is a key way that relationships become cemented in any workplace, and not inviting you into the inner circle of bantering is a sign your coworkers may not feel comfortable around you enough to think of you as one of ‘the team,'” said Kerr.

They steal credit for your ideas

These coworkers could just be “glory hogs,” said Taylor.

But if they go out of their way to steal the limelight from you and only you, they may be trying to drive you out.

They assume unauthorized power

Sometimes coworkers who want to muscle in on your position will play boss even when they have no authority, said Taylor.

They throw you under the bus

Do your coworkers throw you under the bus when something goes wrong? Do they tattle on you for saying or doing something against company policy? Do they run to tell your boss any time you make a mistake?

Then they’re probably trying to get you fired.

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They never make you or your work a priority

Another big sign your coworkers despise you: They never make your concerns or problems a priority, and they don’t treat your work with the same level of urgency that they do your colleagues’, Kerr said.

They get defensive around you

“If they often and immediately get defensive around you, it could indicate that there’s a lack of trust, and possibly deeper dislike,” said Kerr.

Source: Business Insider

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