You’ve probably been in the situation where you had your heart shattered into what seemed to be a million pieces and you thought you would ever recover.
Finding out a partner has cheated can rock your world. People can suddenly experience an array of emotions — sadness, anger, shock and disbelief.
It’s hard to understand why exactly someone would cheat but what is most important is how you recover from the pain and anguish. Here are some expert tips on how to get over being cheated on.
Accept that he cheated on you. Accept that he has left you. Accept that the relationship is over. It is only then and then that you can get over the heartbreaking relationship and move on to bigger and better things, albeit slowly and cautiously.
2. Reach out to trusted friends
Confide in friends who would want to jump to your rescue and quickly offer advice about what you need to do.
3. Try to understand why or how the infidelity happened
Yes, it might hurt like a b**** but it’s necessary otherwise self-doubt may creep in as you might start to think it’s your fault. As much as you might not want to hear about the specific details, you need to understand why your partner did what they did.
4. Learn to trust
When you’ve been deceived, it’s hard to trust others around you, no matter what the situation is. Learn to keep yourself open to others, while maybe hedging on the cautious side. This will help you grow as a person and, eventually, get over your fears and your past relationship.
5. Give yourself 24hours before making any big decision.
Right after finding out about a partner cheating, you might feel like you need to go straight into a fix-it mode or make big decisions based on discovering the sexual infidelity. Rather than being reactive, be intentional and thoughtful.