You Should Know The Answers To These Questions If You And Bae Have Been Dating For A Year

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First of all, Congratulations are in order for you guys! Not many people make the 1-year mark guys! We know it isn’t easy tolerating another person for this long but you’ve managed to keep going!

Anyways, if you’ve managed to be with this person for a year, you should be able to know little little things about bae like bae’s full name, their favorite food, what makes them tick, first crush, first sexual encounter… you know, basic stuff like that but now that you’ve reached the one year mark, we are assuming you guys are really serious about the relationship and it’s not just for fun or appearances.

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You need to bring the big guns, in a sense that, you have to move from the normal silly questions in the honeymoon phase (before the 1year mark) and start to know more about who your partner really is, what he/she wants from life, know his/her health status and the likes.

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Of course, it’s OK if you and your partner disagree on certain things or have slightly different values and beliefs, but you should totally ask your partner these important questions to get a sense of where they see things going and what the future might hold for your relationship.

You don’t know where to start from? We gotchu. Check out some of the crucial questions you need to ask bae to help you understand the type of relationship you guys are having and get to understand where he /she stands about certain issues.

1. What Are Your Biggest Fears?

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Not the childish ones like the fear of spiders, snakes or even horror movies. We are talking real life scares such as anxieties, stressors, and worries. Talking about our fears can not only help to make them feel less scary, and knowing this information will almost certainly help you feel closer to your partner and better able to comfort them in times of need.

2. Do You Want To Get Married Someday?

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Yeah, it might be a little weird just coming right up and asking this question but you need to know what you’re really getting yourself into. If he says he does see himself getting married within the next 10 years then you can be able to know how to structure your life since you also probably want to get hitched in a number of years. Can you compromise for love? Are you guys on the same page?

3. Well, do you want children?

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Lol. Logically this question follows right after. Does your partner want children? If yes after how many years of marriage? Does it work with your plan? How are you guys going to compromise if it doesn’t? Is whatever response he/she gives you a dealbreaker?

4. What’s Your Sickle Cell Status?

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Knowing your sickle cell status is knowing whether you have the Sickle Cell Disease (SCD) or you have the Sickle Cell Trait(SCT). Both are genetically passed down from parents.

It’s necessary to know your status because 2 carriers are not advised to make a child together. There is a 25% chance that you’re bringing a child who has the Sickle Cell Disease into the world and it’s not fair to both the child and you.

5. What are your goals for the future?

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This point is really really necessary. You don’t have to be with someone who doesn’t value his/her future. There should be a goal (even if the plan to achieve that goal hasn’t been made yet). Asking your partner what their ideal future looks like can give you a better idea if they fit your idea of the future.

6. What’s Your Relationship Like With Your Family?

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One year in, you’ve probably seen your partner’s parents and siblings or spoken to them on the phone but this question is beyond this. We are talking looking in depth into your partner’s relationship with his/her family. Their relationship with them might explain some of their attitudes and help you understand why they do what they do.

That said, it’s also good to remember that life rarely happens in the way we plan for it. Much like all of these questions, there’s a good chance — if you two stay together for a long time — that you’ll be asking each other some of these questions periodically forever, with potentially very different answers. People evolve.

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