Tried And Tested Tips On How To Be Friends With Benefits Without Catching Feelings. No Lies Here…Hard Facts!

What’s not to like about the idea of having no-strings sex with someone you like and respect, but don’t necessarily want a future with?

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Let’s be honest, having friends with benefits can be incredibly convenient—all the fun and enjoyment with no strings attached. He/she is just a phone call away and is always down for you. No emotional crap. You understand each other’s vibe and respond accordingly.

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Since you both understand each other, it becomes a little tricky to keep it all “professional”. Friends with benefits come with a few asterisks and if you don’t want to open a big can of worms, here are the dos and don’ts to keep in mind.

1. Lay the ground rules out up front and make sure you both agree on them.

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If all you want is a FWB (Friends With Benefits) relationship, then that’s what you’re agreeing to. No one likes getting hurt, so if FWB isn’t something you think you’re capable of because you get attached too easily, don’t put yourself in that situation.

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2. Choose your partner carefully

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Obviously, don’t go for someone who you know has feelings for you, or you get a slight clue that they have feelings for you. And don’t agree to be FWB with someone you have feelings for. That’s surely going to lead you to trouble.

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Go for someone who might be more open about sexuality so it doesn’t seem like he could easily be attached and hope it could lead to a relationship down the line.

3. Keep Your Eyes (And Heart) Open For New Relationships

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Don’t get too comfortable, or close yourself off from finding someone you want to be with. You don’t want miss out on not getting to know someone amazing just because you have a sex buddy. If he/she doesn’t understand, then maybe you shouldn’t be sex buddies at all.

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4. DON’T Have Sleepovers

Having sleepovers confuses things. You want to keep yourself from getting emotionally attached, so sleeping next to your FWB—and waking up next to them—is extremely intimate. Say goodnight, take a shower, and get into bed feeling relaxed, satisfied, and totally comfortable with the fact that they went home.

5. DON’T Leave The Bedroom

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After a few nights of what’s hopefully amazing sex, don’t feel forced to start doing date-like things like going shopping together, seeing a movie. The fact that you connect so well in the bedroom does not mean it’ll translate elsewhere.

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Keep your chemistry contained to the bedroom where it belongs.

6. DON’T Let It Keep Long

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Expiration dates aren’t just for food — they also apply to your FWB setup. If you’re spending more than a couple of months hooking up with this guy, it’s more likely you’re going to edge toward relationship territory (or at least want to). Keep it moving.

7. Avoid cross-contamination

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Introducing your FWB to your friends is a categorically bad idea, no matter how much you think they’d get along. In fact, the more likeable your FWB, the more isolated you should keep them from the rest of your social life.

8. Practice Safe Sex

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Remember, you might not be the only one he/she is having sex with so your protection game must be lit! A condom is a must. This is also no time for anyone to be shy about wanting or needing to use lube. You’re here for a good time, so equip yourself with what you need to have one safely and comfortably.

9. Speak up if you want more.

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While you should never enter an FWB arrangement with someone you actually want to date — Don’t sell yourself short! — some FWBs do become partners. That can only happen if someone speaks up, though, so if you want a greater commitment from you FWB, say so. If you two are on the same page, awesome. If not, then you have the knowledge you need to move on to look for a connection that truly makes you happy.

10. Speak Your (Sex) Mind

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The main point of having an FWB is to have amazing, satisfying sex. Be honest about what you like and what you don’t like.

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